Ursula Dlamini, the former girlfriend of award-winning South African DJ and music producer Oscar Mbo, has publicly accused him of domestic abuse, breaking her silence after several years and igniting intense discussion across social media platforms.
Dlamini shared her account through a series of emotional Instagram posts, where she uploaded images she claims were taken during their past relationship. Alongside the photos, she opened up about the psychological and emotional scars she says she has carried long after the relationship ended. Her disclosure immediately drew widespread attention, with many followers expressing shock, concern, and solidarity.
In her messages, Dlamini reflected on how difficult it has been to revisit that chapter of her life. Although she has since rebuilt her life, she explained that the trauma still surfaces unexpectedly, disrupting her sense of normalcy. She described being triggered during ordinary moments, such as while working, and being forced to relive painful memories she says she once suppressed in order to survive.
Now married and a mother, Dlamini said her decision to speak out was not made lightly. She explained that she had spent years protecting someone she believes caused her significant harm, choosing silence for the sake of moving forward. However, she said the emotional burden became too heavy to continue carrying alone. According to her, speaking out was ultimately about reclaiming her peace, safeguarding her family, and refusing to continue shielding alleged abusive behavior.
“Today was so triggering for me guys,” she wrote in one post. “Oscar used to abuse me and I have to live with days like these where I’ll get triggered in the middle of a task at work then go about my day like nothing is happening when I’m dying inside. Why am I even protecting this monster?”
In another message, she addressed the idea of accountability, suggesting that healing feels incomplete without acknowledgment of the harm she says was done. While she recognized that her life has progressed and that she has found love and stability, she implied that unresolved pain still follows her.
“I’m doing it for myself and my kids and my husband but I just wish he could pay and be held accountable for what he did to me all those years. I’ll never heal,” she wrote, underscoring the long-term impact she says the experience has had on her mental and emotional well-being.
Her revelations quickly sparked a wave of reactions online. Many social media users praised Dlamini for her courage, commending her for speaking openly about an issue that remains taboo in many communities. Supporters highlighted the importance of creating safe spaces for survivors of abuse to share their stories without fear of judgment or dismissal.
At the same time, others urged caution, noting the seriousness of the allegations and emphasizing the importance of due process. Some commentators stressed that while survivors’ voices should be heard and respected, allegations of this nature should ultimately be examined through appropriate legal channels.
Oscar Mbo, a prominent figure in South Africa’s music and entertainment industry, has not publicly responded to the claims. As of now, the allegations have not been tested in court, and no legal proceedings have been confirmed.
The situation has reignited broader conversations about domestic abuse, accountability, and the challenges survivors face when coming forward—especially when the accused is a public figure. Dlamini’s decision to speak out has added to a growing number of voices calling for greater awareness, empathy, and action around gender-based violence and emotional abuse.
As the public continues to react, the story remains a reminder of the lasting effects trauma can have, even years after a relationship has ended, and the complex courage it often takes for survivors to tell their stories.
Oscar Mbo is also being accused of GBV , hectic 😓 pic.twitter.com/gdguMdRIO6
— The Instigator (@Am_Blujay) January 13, 2026
